Everyone can use a positive attitude.
No one really wants to be around or feels comfortable being around a person with a negative attitude. A negative attitude is draining, promotes fear and a limiting mindset and focus.
A person with a positive attitude has a state of mind that envisions and expects only favourable results regardless of the circumstances around them.
A positive attitude generally makes you happier and more resilient improves your relationships and even increases your chances of success.
To top it all off, here’s a study that shows that people with a positive attitude live longer than their sourpuss counterparts.
Here are 15 ways to develop and maintain a positive attitude.
1. Use Gratitude to Improve Your Attitude.
When you find yourself focusing on what’s not working in your life or what’s wrong, what you don’t have, or what you’re missing out on, adjust your attitude by doing a little gratitude journaling exercise. Get a journal or notebook and write down 3-5 things you are grateful for, things that you have achieved (no matter how small), things that are working in your life etc.
Different studies show that having an attitude of gratitude is beneficial for every aspect of your life: being grateful improves your health, your mood, your relationships, your career satisfaction, and on, and on. If you need an attitude lift simply think of all the things that you have to be grateful for.
2. Create and Use a Daily Routine.
How you start your day determines how productive and satisfied you will be at the end. Make sure that you have a positive attitude boosting daily routine that puts you in a good mood so that you can start the day off right. Here’s why it’s important to have a daily routine.
3. Change Your Self-Talk.
It is no news that our self-talk– the things we say to ourselves about ourselves affects our mindset, attitude, relationship and nearly everything else. Pay attention to your self-talk listen to the things you are saying about yourself and how they affect our attitude.
If you find that your self-talk is negative and could be holding you back, reframe your self-talk and begin saying positive things to and about yourself. Affirm yourself constantly. This will change your outlook on life, attitude and the way you interact with others.
4. Don’t wait for External Things To Be Happy.
Chose to be happy at all times regardless of the difficulties in your life. Happiness inspires a positive attitude and makes people enjoy being around you.
Instead of waiting for external things to make you happy, be happy and then watch how that influences the things that go on around you. That is, instead of telling yourself that first something good has to happen, and then you’ll be happy, be happy first. Happiness is an attitude, not a situation.
5. Smile Often or At least Learn to Smile.
I used to be that girl who didn’t smile, and no matter how funny a thing was (I was extremely hard to impress); I won’t even laugh, because I was ashamed of my dentition. I always thought it was a bit abnormal. And if I had to smile or laugh, I would have to be extremely careful enough to hide the parts that I thought were abnormal. I would only make an attempt to smile or laugh if I found the circumstances really necessary.
This made people really uncomfortable being around me (added to the fact that I was equally as negative as you could think), and they always had something to say about it or at least try to rationalize my “unwillingness to smile”
When I finally convinced myself to love me (the way I was), I had to teach myself to smile. I learned to smile. It wasn’t fun at the start, and it didn’t come naturally as well. But I learned it and I noticed that I was less tensed and easier to relate with.
Smiling will give you an instantaneous attitude boost.
Try smiling for a minute while you think of a happy memory or the last thing that made you smile.
Smiling releases endorphins and serotonin, also known as the feel-good hormones. It’s a lot easier to adopt a positive attitude when the chemicals being released by your body are conducive to well-being.
Find reasons to smile or laugh every day.
6. Fill Yourself (mind and brain) With Positivity.
In a world where everything is fast-paced and one could easily get drowned, drained and discouraged, we need a regular dose of inspiration and motivation to help us maintain a positive attitude.
Read biographies, memoirs and stories of inspiring and successful people around the world, learn from their stories and strategies and allow them to inspire you.
Read inspiring quotes.
Listen to music with uplifting lyrics, List to podcasts and watch videos or movies that help you overcome obstacles and stay positive despite the odds.
Give yourself a daily attitude boost n by uploading as much positivity into your brain as you possibly can.
7. Take Responsibility.
At any moment your attitude can be that of a victim or of a creator. The first step you need to take to shift from victim mentality to a creator-mode is to take responsibility. Here’s the attitude of a creator:
- I create my life.
- I am responsible for me.
- I’m in charge of my destiny.
Learn to take responsibility for the things happening around you and in you without pushing blames. Learn from the things happening to you rather than be overwhelmed by self-pity.
8. Be Proactive.
A reactive person allows others and external events to determine how they will feel. A proactive person decides how they will feel regardless of what may be going on around them. Be proactive by choosing your attitude and maintaining it throughout the day, regardless of what the day may bring.
9. Give Up On Having An Attitude of Entitlement.
Think of the parable “Who Moved My Cheese?” by Spencer Johnson. Two little mice and two miniature people are put in a maze. Here’s what happens:
- When the mice discover that the cheese isn’t where it’s supposed to be, they immediately get to work on finding another piece of cheese.
- The two miniature people, instead, get angry that the cheese has been moved. They waste time expressing outrage and blaming each other.
Stop demanding that things be handed to you. Your attitude at all times should be the following:
- It’s up to me to get what I want.
- Good things come to those who work hard.
- I adapt to change easily and quickly.
- I keep going even when things get tough.
10. Stop Expecting Life to Be Easy.
Nobody said life or achieving the level of success you desire was going to be easy or all rosy.
The truth is, life gets tough at times.
For all of us.
It can even be painful.
But you’re brave and resourceful, and you can take it.
Know that sometimes things won’t be easy, and adopt the attitude that you have what it takes to deal with anything that life throws at you.
11. Change Your Thoughts.
Positive thoughts lead to a positive attitude, while negative thoughts lead to a negative attitude. Changing your attitude is as easy as hitting the “pause” button on what you’re thinking and choosing to think different thoughts.
Focus not only on changing what is wrong with your life but learn also to focus on the good. Focus on the good in yourself, the good in your life, and the good in others and learn to celebrate your little wins.
When things aren’t going your way, keep a positive attitude by visualizing yourself succeeding and achieving your goals. When Nelson Mandela was incarcerated—in a tiny cell that was just 6 feet wide–he kept his hopes up by visualizing himself being set free.
Mandela once said, “I thought of the day when I would walk free. Over and over again, I fantasized about what I would like to do.”
By visualizing his release he was able to maintain a positive attitude, even when he found himself under extraordinarily difficult circumstances.
13. Stop Complaining.
Whining about anything and everything is not conducive to a positive attitude. When you complain you’re saying negative things about a person, place, or event, without offering a solution to fix the situation. Instead of complaining, do the following:
- Remove yourself from the situation.
- Shift your perspective about the situation.
- Offer a possible solution.
- Accept that there’s nothing you can do to change the situation and that complaining about it just fosters negativity.
Constantly complaining leads to a bad attitude. So stop complaining. Instead, start looking for solutions or accept what cannot be changed.
14. Use The Power of Humor.
One thing I’m learning to do is learning to laugh at myself. This way I don’t become offended when others laugh at or make a jest of me.
People who know how to laugh at themselves and at life’s absurdities have a great attitude. Your sense of humour is a powerful tool, and you can use it to lift your mood and enhance your emotional state at any time.
When something goes wrong, ask yourself, “What’s funny about this?” A humorous perspective will have a positive effect on your attitude.
15. Surround Yourself With People With a Positive Attitude.
A positive attitude is contagious. And the saying, “birds of a feather flock together” still holds water; and in 2 ways: you either become like the people you spend the most time with or you naturally find people who reason like you and be friends with them.
When you feel that you need an attitude boost, find someone with a great attitude and look for an excuse to hang out with them. Their attitude can’t help but rub itself off on you and you’ll be able to face the world with renewed optimism.
John Mitchell once said the following: “Our attitude toward life determines life’s attitude toward us.”
Create your fab life by having a great attitude.